Hav, not quite sure what you mean by the "haunt". I'm guessing you mean to make it sound more open, wider, more spacey.
I'm not convinced it has to do with my picking. I've never noticed that others play less hard than me. My dad assures me it doesn't sound as "plink, plonk" when I play than on the recording, so I'm inclined to think it has more to do with recording conditions. I've been trying to fix the problem of my recordings sounding too closed and percussive but haven't come up with a satisfying solution.
1st solution was moving the mic further away but I get too much noise then. So, at the moment, I play with close miking and add a little software echo afterwards. I think the main problem is my room (where I record): it has a carpet and bits and pieces everywhere with basically attenuate any kind of reflections I might get. I'll have to try the bathroom just once, just to see if there's an appreciable difference.
Thanks for the input anyhow, it's extra motivation to go and bug everybody by using the bathroom